Exploring grief


When we open our curiosity and awareness to the wisdom of the body, one the most enduring and regular visitors is unacknowledged grief. For many of us in our culture, grief is something we either turn away from or think should be dealt with alone, but recently I came across the work of Francis Weller. His book ”The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief” opened my heart to an entirely different dimension of welcoming grief - welcoming it in community. His work draws on the wisdom from Indigenous cultures who see grief not as something we need to go through alone, but as something we share in together. Indeed there is no other way to process it. Grief is a gift to the community.

It seems to me that our loss of ways to express and receive grief in community and therefore our inability to welcome it inside of us is wreaking havoc. We stay numb and disconnected from a world that is literally unravelling in front of us. The prayer of grief is an essential act of honouring what is important to us. It is our prayer to belonging.

Over the last 6 months I have been in training and apprenticeship with Azul-Valérie Thome, who herself was mentored by Francis Weller, Joanna Macy and Sobonfu Some.


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“Grief and love are sisters, woven together from the beginning. Their kinship reminds us that there is no love that does not contain loss and no loss that is not a reminder of the love we carry for what we once held close” Francis Weller - Author of ”The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief”

A regular online grief ceremony for this involved with Extinction Rebellion - co-held with my mentor and friend Azul-Valérie Thome.

Thursday 4th July
Wednesday 4th September
Thursday 3rd October


18.30-20.45 UK time

Find out more through the Facebook event - or contact me

Connecting in grief - honouring our sorrow for the world

Saturday 15th June 2-5pm
Stroud Community Agriculture Roundhouse, Hawkwood, Stroud

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“Grief and love are sisters, woven together from the beginning. Their kinship reminds us that there is no love that does not contain loss and no loss that is not a reminder of the love we carry for what we once held close” Francis Weller - Author of ”The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief”
Join us in ceremony and community to open to and express our grief for what we are losing as our world changes. Indigenous cultures are increasingly sharing their ways to gather and share grief, seeing it not as something we need to go through alone, but as something we share in together. Indeed there is no other way to process it and now we need to find our way together. Grief is a gift to the community, it is our collective prayer of belonging.

Our afternoon together will be based on the work of Francis Weller, Joanna Macy and our mentor Azul Valerie Thome, whom herself has trained with Francis, Joanna and Sobonfu Some. We will spend time connecting to our bodies on the land, time connecting to our gratitude and will make a ceremonial space to welcome and express our grief in these times.
Held by Mari Winkelman and Peter Gill

Mari is an accredited psychotherapeutic counsellor and integrative body and movement therapist with over 10 years in practice. She facilitates embodied presence movement in various contexts and is undertaking an apprenticeship in Grief Composting with Azul Tome. Mari passionately advocates for the wisdom and value of being sensitive in and to our environments and our interconnection in this world.

Costs: £20 to cover our time and expenses. Concessions available so please do get in touch if you want to come but finances are an obstacle.
Or contact me if you have any questions




The landscapes of grief…
Honouring what the body knows

Online course Starts 23rd September ends 21st October
5 Monday evenings 7-9pm

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"To alter the amnesia of our times, we must be willing to look into the face of the loss and keep it nearby. In this way, we may be able to honour the losses and live our lives as carriers of their unfinished stories. This is an ancient thought - how we tend the dead is as important as how we tend the living.” Francis Weller - Author of ”The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief”
For many of us grief is something we turn away from yet so often, when we pay kind attention to the body… it remembers, or it asks us to remember. It holds both the knowing about what was lost and the key to its healing. Our task is to open a space and listen. This five week course, for those who know Focusing, will open a space to explore these landscapes. It will offer us a sacred space to deeply listen to ourselves and each other in this transformative landscape.

Some of the themes we will explore:

  • The gatekeepers of grief - what keeps us away
  • The five gates of grief (from Francis Weller)
  • What the body knows about loss and healing
  • Tending grief in community

This course is nor just about the grief of losing a loved one. We live with many kinds of grief and all are welcome here.

Open to anyone who has knows the basics of Focusing and Listening in paired practice.
Costs: £120
NOTE: I have a few concessionary places available,
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